Want to know my dirty little wedding vendor secret?
I hated planning my wedding.
I felt like there were so many options, so much pressure to get it all right, so many people, so many events you were "supposed" to have, and just did not think it was fun. Wen I realized this about three days into our engagement, we made the official call to have a very short engagement, 100 days from the day Drew proposed to the day we said I do.
Now that I work in the wedding industry I think it's hilarious to compare my planning experience then to my career now.
Since I didn't like planning, and I've seen so many weddings be planned, I have a few tips I always give to every couple when we meet before they book me, and today, I'd like to share them with all of you too.
1. TAME THE BEAST. Seriously. When you first get the ring your brain fills up with all things wedding. Pinterest is at least 87% to blame for this. The first thing you need to do is tame the beast. List out your priorities, figure out the budget, and get the guest list under control.
2. BOOK AS MUCH AS YOU CAN AS FAST AS YOU CAN. We booked all of my wedding vendors within one week of getting engaged. It was a stressful week, as I also happened to be moving to a whole new town that week, but I am so glad we did it that way. Knowing everything was done let me relax for most of our engagement, except for the final two weeks...but that's a post for another day.
3. ONLY DO THE EVENTS YOU TRULY CARE ABOUT. I did not want a hundred bridal showers. I had so many friends who were completely exhausted their entire engagement because there was event after event after event eating up all their free time surrounding their wedding. I wanted to actually hang out with the guy I was marrying and spend time with my friends having sleepovers instead of showers. Maybe you LOVE the idea of having ten showers, or maybe you're like me and one sounds like the exact perfect number for you. That's okay! Don't spend time and energy doing things because you think you're supposed to want to.
4. PICK YOUR PRIORITIES. Unless you're a billionaire, chances are you don't have unlimited funding for this day. This sort of ties back to number three, but something extremely important to do early in planning is decide what parts of your wedding are the most important to you. Do you really want elaborate floral arrangements decorating the entire space? Set aside a big chunk of your budget for this detail. Heart set on a type of venue? Cut in other areas accordingly. Do you want great photography and videography to look back at for years? Invest your budget in it. Choose what's most important and shave what isn't.
5. GET A FLU SHOT. YOU'LL THANK ME LATER. You do not want to be sick on your wedding day. It is not fun. No one ever says "When I get married I hope my friends have to hold the train of my wedding dress while I vomit in the bathroom because my immune system crashed the week of my wedding." If you don't take care of yourself, and I mean REALLY take care of yourself WELL, you will regret it because you will miss your rehearsal dinner, vomit all night the night before your wedding, and be so sick on your wedding day your family will literally spend an hour debating whether you should be going to the ER instead of your wedding venue. No, this didn't happen to me...why would you suggest such a thing?
Planning your wedding can be magic. It can be wonderful and beautiful and feel so special. It can also be crazy stressful and exhausting and make you want to tear your hear out or run away and elope (if that's your dream, do it...and hire me to document it). Hopefully, these five tips help your planning process feel a little more fun and a little less "how much does the courthouse charge again?"
What advice did I miss? What do you wish you'd done differently while planning?